The Gospel and Marriage

The Story of Scripture, part 25
Matthew 19:1 - 12, ESV
David Platt, MBC Pastor-Teacher | August 11, 2019
We care for one another with concern.
We encourage one another with truth. We comfort one another with love.
We share God's word for each other, by giving worldly council for each other. We need to encourage with truth and also comfort others with love.
We have all sinned.  We have all done wrong.  We are all equal in our sin.
MATTHEW 19:1 – 12
Now when Jesus had finished these sayings, he went away from Galilee and entered the region of Judea beyond the Jordan. And large crowds followed him, and he healed them there. And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” But he said to them, “Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven.  Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.”
God defines marriage for our good, so let’s trust and submit to His Word.
God brings a man and women together as one flesh. With unity and diversity. Shared satisfaction through consummation.
God designs marriage for the display of the gospel, so let’s show His love to the world.
God designed marriage as a means to and end, not the end.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.
This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
The point of marriage is to point is to Christ. A husband is designed by God as Christ loved the church.  The women's love is like the churches love towards the community of the world.  
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Husbands are representing Jesus. If we are harsh with our wives or ignore them, we are telling the world that Jesus is harsh, that Jesus ignores the world.
If wives disrespect husband's, we show the world that Jesus is disrespectful to the world.
God created Marriage. He created the man and women for display of the gospel.
Divorce is always a result of sin. Divorce is often sinful.
One ground for divorce in Matthew 19: Adultery.
Divorce is always a result of sin.  Marriage is a uniting together of two sinners.  The major problem in every marriage is sin.
The problems in marriage is a war on each of our hearts.  Any divorce is always a result of sin.
He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself.
PROVERBS 7:21 – 27
With much seductive speech she persuades him; with her smooth talk she compels him. All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a stag is caught fast till an arrow pierces its liver; as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life. And now, O sons, listen to me, and be attentive to the words of my mouth. Let not your heart turn aside to her ways; do not stray into her paths, for many a victim has she laid low, and all her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is the way to Sheol, going down to the chambers of death.
Divorce is possible in this situation.
We are not looking for reasons to divorce but longing for reconciliation to occur.
Work towards reconciliation. How can marriage survive adultery? By true forgiveness.
When it comes to adultery.  Divorce is possible, but not inevitable.
One ground for divorce in 1 Corinthians 7: Abandonment.
1 CORINTHIANS 7:12 – 15
. . . if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.
Divorce is preferable in this situation.
Remarriage is biblically permissible for the offended spouse after a biblical divorce.
Abuse in marriage isbsinful and totally intolerable in marriage.  We implor abuse in marriage to be reported.  Through law enforcement and church discipline.
When abuse happens in marriage, we see that the abuser is not a true believer.  So this brings up abandonment in marriage.  So an abuser could also be abandoning the abused in marriage.
If you are single, maximize your singleness to advance the gospel.
Paul and Mathew both commend those who are single and not married.
If you are married, love your spouse in a way that portrays the gospel.
If you are considering divorce, remember the preciousness and power of Jesus’ love.
We urge you to resolve the conflict.  Urge to fix the marriage.
If you are divorced for a biblical reason and single, rest in Jesus in your singleness or possibly in a future marriage.
If you are divorced for an unbiblical reason and single, repent and rely on Jesus to glorify God in your singleness.
If you are divorced for an unbiblical reason and married, repent and reflect the gospel in your current marriage.